What goes around..... comes around!

From: Dhananjay W
Date: Jul 4, 2005 7:33 AM
Subject: What goes around..... comes around!
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What goes around..... comes around!Be it love, suggestion, help, a kind word, absolutely anything!Only don't expect it to come from the same time-frame you gave it to! Itcomes back from anywhere, anybody.....even a stranger!Just Wait and watch! Most importantly Recognize It!"Guess my fault was that I did expect it to come from the same time-frame!And miserably failed to recognize what was coming my way, not fromstrangers, but from friends!!! I think I might just be able to put things inperspective, somehow betrayal doesn't hurt any more, in fact it doesn't evenseem like betrayal any more! :-) And a smile on my own face, a genuine oneat that, is something I would die for right now!!! ;)And by the way, did I mention there was a "You dare not change!!" at the endof it all???? :-)It is almost couple of years back when I first peek into this corporateworld. Should I enlist what I learnt here ? But definitely it is worthenough thatit will lead me to stand my own till years. And the memories of my veryfirst corporate organization - I will cherish for years to come.Thank you everyone.I will like to be in touch with you.

:Dhananjay

It is difficult to write blog ...

Now a days I am finding it difficult to express into the blogs on the regular basis.
[2]. Isn't it difficult to pour slight of what I have in my mind and be presize. Very painful ... really I mean it .... when I have loads of things to write and I end up with a huge while paper.
[1]. I find very less time to ..... unusual reason.
[3]. Now I have started looking out for ........ for a very difficult to find thing .... well it is Confess by Leo Tolstoy. I just read a bit about it online (which is rather scary to read any such thing online)

I fear and simultaneously feel very exciting that .. Leo Tolstoy has written this book when he was 51 yrs of his his age and I am still at 23 . Buuuuuut I humbly accept that till Leo had reached his age he had gone through so many incidences, Interacted with ppl, Read TONS of books.. (by the way these ppl are themself so genuine and veracious they have strong thoughts even though they may not read books, experience it.).

Still the question remains ... How can I relate myself with great honour Leo Tolstoy (I am sorry for that) . It is the only flying state of mind. (Shut up.) ;-)

Met somebody who will make me think more....

I hate to drive when I know that my bike's tyres are misaligned. It just become so tiresome that I lost all my mood to drive .... it make me to drive slowly and cautiously and I really hate it. I literally yelled at the garage mechanic (:0) That guy was not there... ).
Neways this thing still not hampered what has to be happen. It was declared that my 'Workflow Team' will celebrate the product release party of 'Workflow Brego' which was actually happened in 3-4 months back. (it was Jitu's credit that he was constantly asking for the party.... and I think it is worth on his part that mainly he had worked for this release). And already heard that Miss 'Brinda' will be joining that party. Little I was knowing about her (Preconception :: very Career oriented). Brinda being the old member of the workflow who later moved to chennai and currently in San Jose.
Just couple of days b4 she was with us @ lunch and was discussing about the traditional pre-marriage things .... how they were about her. While listening to her I was really wondering about her attitude .. [despite of the fact that even she was knowing little about me, during her talks, she was taking me into account and she was talking about her views so openly as if ---- even if I am discussing this with Dhananjay I am not feeling uncomfortable at all. No embarrassment of how other person will going to react on me.] and what should I say about her talkativeness and fluency and command on English ..... I guess if I would have been in contact with sucho ppl definitely I would have read a lot [In general this has become my first thought] and off course learn to deal with others so well.
I was kinda wondering what has made this girl so frank and so open minded ..... not sure but felt like beside what I as a normal person seems when he interacts with her ... still she must (instead of saying 'she should be' ...... I am expecting so) extremely aware that whom to consider and how to extract out the characteristic behaviour of person in front of me or decision of how to keep the exact 'safe' distance. A sheer look straight into your eyes and as if reading the answers with in it of the question that expect a straight answer . I don't know whether this is being a good quality .... more I am thinking is ... Can I behave like this ?.. I mean how I would have reacted if I would have been in her place ... I find it really difficult but definitely something to be grasped/adapted. This person has undergone .. whatever moment whatever may be the situation .. she would have been able to judge it based on 'Sat-Asat VivekBuddhi'. This is what everyone tries to learn ..
Brinda,.... I would have write more on you .. (there is still a lot when and what I think .. ) but it is not what I want to do. Rather you have done an boosting to my thinking process. Thanks a lot :-)
I am sure when I say something like 'He/She must have done like this' .. I truly mean that I am in search of the characteristic that will tell me that this is how a perfect behaviour rather the perfect person would have reacted like this. . Again knowing nobody is perfect I am looking out /watching /observing peoples and ==> --> (filter) on some platform.
For now I am frustrated .... only thought in mind is WHY THE WORDS FAILS TO COME OUT EXACTLY WHEN i HAVE MILLIONS OF MILLONS OF THINGS THAT ARE
LINED UP IN MY MIND WHICH COULD HAVE CAME OUT SOME BETTER WAY ROUND ..

[Today's Routine]
Today's song : You are still the one [Shania Twain]
Today's desire : Come out of 'this' completely (I don't know what is 'this' means )
Today's hate : Driving misaligned tyres' bike n Forgot to put up my 'Handkerchief'
Today's love : Driving @ night.

It happens ..it happens to me...(Just for today. )

It's a friday evening .... almost everybody in so called and fat-salaried Software industry is eagerly waiting for this time to come. And with this evening as usual ppl are in hurry to move out of the office and get rid of it till Monday.
But ............. but I m here though-less (for now) and looking at the ppl escaping the office ..... looks like only quick moves of group member of "TGIF ... [Thanks god it's Friday]" are planning something as usual for the upcoming TGIF event. Somehow I couldn't find it exciting... or appreciating...as what my past colleague Ashu used to say " What man are you going for party with xxx .... it is so nice time to be somewhere at quite place and having drinks and listening to silent music ....... what this @#@ these guys are doing ?? and blahhhhh "
Although I really don't fully agree with Ashu K ..... Still I cou-n't understand is it really so hectic that we are looking for breaks / chances to celebrate it so eagerly.

Well let me also move out.... my cousine brother is bothering me.... I have been observing for quite some time he is pretty interested in book-magz reading and so he is bringing at least one new book almost everyday and reading it beside me ... Tension in this thing is that I am not able to read these books overnight ... which is what I can not soothe myself that ==>> some book is returned in front of me without me reading it. Still it is great that he is interested and making good use of time by reading books.... Y'day he was asking me for the name of the Authors of some books. For time being I was blank ...... somewhat blank.... because I was not able to recall the details of most of the books which I have read in past and not noted anything about them anywhere. Many time I feel it very repented whenever -time came that I have to recall the whole list of the books that I have read till date .. But I am sure that although I am not able to recall them now... I have got something out of them... so will have to get back the memos.
May be some other blog I will enlist them all. For now.......

N'Joy TGIF. (ToWhomSoEverTtMayConcern)

P.S. Still this is the time I am somewhat feels guilty that I should be able to put more than 80% of my office hrs into actual work .... And If I do not have enought official work work.. and I should be doing the some related work/study . It is ................ I know not endless. Will it end .

Continuing recent crappy stuff ;-)

Today's song ...... Rut aa gai re [1947 - The Earth]
Today's Party attended ...... Just 4 Uo. (Confirmed Varun Sponsored !! ... :-) )
Today's news ...... Bratz cleared ..(JMS).

Le chalein...

When I first hear this song...... rather I saw the recording scene of this song, I was like ...waw :0)
And as the muzic release of this movie
My Brother Nikhil happens I really don't care whether this movie goes hit or flop... I am gonna hear the songs and one of the reasons that has fascinated me about this song is it is being sung by KK , Sunidhi Chauhan and chikna Shaan.
I think beside these fascinating singer ... it is the punch of the song that touches us with feel
as if somebody of our close is feeling down ... lost his mood and through this song made us to back him up ... believing in the prosperous hope that will be led by getting us together and and believing in each other.


chandani muskuraye .... jab havaa kuch kahe
Samazo meri sadayein .... hai tere saath main
Jo ghana ho fiza mai .... andhera.
layenge hum sabere ... tere liye ........~~
le chalein .... le chalein
yaadon ke ye kaafile jayenge hum jahan .... yeh jamin aasama mile

Current things....

I read such things in some blog/or somewhere and thought of putting some mimic/serious stuff in my post so here is my crappier attempt ;)

Current Party held ... Bamboo house.
Current plan in mind ... Next weekend Bombay. (I don't know whether I will be able
to manage to go and see my dear friend praveen)
Current friend in touch ... Swapnil Desai.
Current song in mind ... Le chalein [from movie - My Brother Nikhil]
... Maai re [Euphoria]
... It feels good [Sonique]
Current Reading ... Ghar haravaleli manse (Va. Pu. Kale)
... Menka (Diwali magazine)
... Gaavkari (Diwali magazine)
Current hot Actress ... Priyanka Chopra
Current TV show ... Jassi jaisi Koi nahi
Currrent food ... Prawns...sea food
Current heroic act ... Thinking out of box.
Cur' nt hateful person ... Raani Mukharj, Shakti kapur.
Current thought ... Null.(Refer to above item)

See this is what happens when you have load of work and have little time to think for what to write out of your mind. And I know a lot can't be posted here.. will place them @ trash state. ;-)

It Feels good

I believed and do believe that there is something called as personally strong. Till date I was just wondering how ppl have a directional attitude .. or say thought on something ? Few guys my friends from ny college days, a fluent speakers.... dare to do anything. ... I have seen them when he was on cloud #9 and sadly even when he was really victim of situations turned around by others .... may be counter-lover, some corporate seeker. But every time I meet them, talk to them ..they never seems to be distrubed by whatever happened. I always has respect for them ..... one more reason being....... I always have a gut filling about them .... is that they are those who have a perfect IDEA of life, how to react to any situation .... seems to be just perfect I mean they have very firm stand on what they are doing and it was a other part ki whether whatever they are doing is OK with the traditional conventions... other side is that the way he was 'enjoying' the life. Neways so those are my friends. Hats off to them.

I was preety amazed as I put some steps.. in the that way. I know that I might be wrong (off course) in traditional and conventional sense, but I am and will have satisfaction tht I am walking on the way chosen by me...... I am the sole who is responsible for the downtime of mine. same thing like
'VInash maza ..
mazya hathi
Karan mi '
Somewhere I heard that ....... If you want to be successful in anything
The key is
Just Start that thing.

Mi dararoj baghato .... mazya samoril 70% lok ugawatya suryala namaskar karatat .... karan aajacha aalela diwas changala jaava. Pan jar kadhi namaskar karawa watala ..... Mawalatya suryala mi namaskar karen.... mi sandyakali mawaltya suryakade samadhanane pahen ..... karan dhalatya diwasachi sangata samadhanane vhavi mhanun diwasbhar dhadpad karanara to mi asen.
Since last couple of months I have been attending the meetings in my company. and we as team including the Senior Managers of the company are discussing about the product plan and some evaluation of the open source project/products. Little I made my contribution in the meeting.......... as I was on the back-end .. I mean to say.. I was involved myself in the more code/ functionality/usage/ generalization details of them. and when I say little I contributed in meeting..... I really mean it. But the sparkling light in the dark is in my silence and the smiles which I couldn't control easily... upon hearing the majority points in the discussion rosed by these senior members I was like striking the highs.... it was the same things which I have just been projected and thought of, evaluated. I feel like this is what I want myself to do always... this is the thinking ability, performance. I am able to think better approaching of these ppls.
Mala swatahala shabaski dyawishi watli....... vah re patthya..
But I do realize ..... this is a skill and better it will.. if furnished .... and most important is to bring it out... I had done this mistake..... but it is an achievement on my part.... So it is really feeling good.

Personality Development training....

Today is the second day of my Soft-Skills-Development Training ... and I was knowing that it is going to be late ... wondering why I am unable to manage to reach in time despite of the fact that I wake up so early in the morning.

Ok ok that apart ... this day I was more curious about the today's session as last time he conducted in vivid way and keep up our expectations ... when I reached there ... ppl were yet to join and I was just 4-5th to arrive @ training place. Then I called that I haven't completed my home-work still I didn't cared about it. I decided to see whatever happens. Well the trainer was looks to be cool as he was on Previous session and he asked everybody to point out some of the "IMPORTANT BUT NOT URGENT" things that you think to do but you somehow unable to do. Some of participants were seems not to get it out openly.So there were some TP answers. I told about the Court Matter ([A misshop I will not not be able to narrate it in words] ......... in which I am an eye-witness and need to file an application in court in favour of Maharashtra Police)which is an important but not urgent task which I was not able to do till date. So upon hearing my quotes everyone was amazed to know what exactly might have happened with me. But I remained cool and just focused on what is important but not urgent.

As training session time passed ... we were forced actively into the games which really seems to make sense tobuild the soft-skills. One of them is the ear-to-hear-pass communication and the outcome of the game was shocking. Till date I used to hear about the ---'How things are mis-intepreted when they flow through the heirachical channels?' Well it was a simple statement which I had to tell to the first participant's ear (as good as whispering .. but to let him understand but others should not be able to hear it). --- the statement was 'I really don't care what happens now and then, untill you are my friend in the end' And in the same way the statement was conveyed through 12 participant and the resulting statement was so wiered, so funny ... something like 'I will mine it as you are at the end' So funny naa? It has shown such a great exercise to all of us as it meant that we were unable to 'LISTEN' and unable to 'CONVEY' as what is at inout and output. We can do appropriate filtering once it's urs ...extract out of the exercise.

Lastly the trainer asked us to put down the number of the cubicales that we can use to build a structure consisting only one cube at base and condition is :== Wrong hand, Eyes closed and one cube at a time. Everybody put down some numbers around and less than 6-7-8. And then trainer asked few selected out of us (I was not within them) to build the structure physically. These teams were able to build upto level 4-5. Then the trainer asked one chap to be volunteer and do the same things and the only thing that he was saying to that chap is I fully trust on you. I know that you can do it and you are doing good. Do you believe me ? Surprisingly that chap was able to build two such structues and of height 11 cubes. That'z the power of believe : believe in yourself and believe in others. It has changed views of all of us.. I can say such a training/attitude development is required for the Mangerial level chaps. And it will be really helpful.

But the message I could pick up at the first go out of the training is 'If you want to be successful in somethingonly key to success is -- start that thing'. Then the councellor gave us his contact number but I was knowing that I am not going to call him up :: as I am the one who will decide my further path and the consequences of that. Neways those whoever had taken his number are not going to call him up. So why to take load?

Chhabina ........! Itz awesome ...

I know that today I should be at home as many of my relative have been visiting my place ... reason being: it's continuation of a "urus/Yatra" of my village. Y'day I was awake till 3:00 am and was really wondering about the things I missed even being in my own village for so many years.. In fact I was knowing that every year my Villager celebrate this event with so much of enthusiasm and in quite large extend that I should have attended it many times before.... but alas it's the rat-race things that kept me away from it.

Yesterday I reached home around 09:30 pm and while driving in the "mera gaon " I was astonished to see the crowd of ppl moving here and there.... for a moment I felt as if Wagholi has become as good as a metro city-station for some time.. there was such large number of ppl wandering at that stance.

As I entered home even it was full (house-full :p) ... It was the view of :: complete freshness and geared up enthu ...that is my home . Though I was not expecting so many ppl @ home but I did guess that my cousin brother would be accompanied by his college mates and they were also typical stylist and looking like hostelites just like I was couple of years back.... really it has made me to think 3-4 years back when I was also accompanied with my friends and the way I tried to be a host for them..... But things have changed in last couple of years and none of my friend from college could have turned down to my home as they have fled away from city and even I was unable to mark my presence to this event ... Urus.

I did think that I wouldn't be visiting the "GramDaiwat" (the Village-God) temple. Okay, now here is something I have been thinking which can be considered as atheist way of life. These days. But I wouldn't call it as atheist way of looking at life, God and other things. It's just that I am not sure what is the reason that every morning I wake up, feel fresh and look for new start; what is the that many people around me have strong belief in something not-visible, etc.. etc.

So in a way, I am finding myself somewhere in the middle of whether to believe or not-to-believe in the force of life that I experience to be called as GOD.

Coming back to the central subject ..... Swapnil is my school friend who stays some 10+ km away from here. I called him up to know whether he would be able to join us for chhbina ... I was not expecting him.... later on, I came to know that he had already visited my place and left; but agreed to come over again. And he did join us to watch Chhabina.

It was 11:15 pm and I walked out of home with Swapnil and his friend looks to be a South Indian his name was Swami. The enticing music generated because of sounds of traditional instruments "Dhols, Tashas, Ghantas, Lezim, " was calling us and we followed the same ... 'we joined the Fascination' .... 5-6 groups from adjoining villages and close by districts have came down to Wagholi to show case their skills and the Team work to the Wagholi ...Gaav-vale..

It was amazing to wach the Youngsters completely involved into the games and playing traditional armors like Dandpattas, swords; nicely woven together with other games and music to catch attention of people around it. They were trying to portray the situations of the daily life... some special event happened in past which has boosted the patriotism, nationalism in the minds of viewers... and this was well driven by the another instrument player: the tashawalas.... oooh my mind.. they are so wonderful performers.. many time, I think of these guys and feel a strong intent of join them and be part of such team.

One after another, teams kept on coming and we all moved to the Grampanchayat (village administration building) ground......... where there were some specific fire-work items placed to surprise the villagers . I was thrilled to experience the "Madaka" stuff.... fire-work is kept in the sand pot. and after it is ignited it just start whiling around and make the ppl sitting nearby to make a quick move... in fact it was harmless but I could not stop laughing loudly looking @ the ppl moving instantly as it come whirling and whirling to them.

In between there were the nice fire-work items seen in the open sky...which reminded me of the firework done by Gandalf on the birthday of Bilbo as portrayed in Lord of the Rings.

I was accompanied by group of around 9-10 school friends ... who always be good listeners....and I always feel quite comfortable with them.... just the different work culture and studies that have made us somewhat difficult to meet frequently.

During Chhabina, gup-shup started among us.... of the who is doing what.. Sally meet Joly stuff. Then subject turn to girls, GFs..... some of the lines like "ohhhh ..where I was at ZZZ I saw her.. she was looking so beautiful in all respect ;-) ???? " .. can't stop these guys ..... just can't. They were asking about me..... how I am doing ? .. How about my college life.. any romance having right now..? ....and all endless chit-chatting......... but I would say, it's worthy to be there. In a trustworthy people circle and you can just open up yourself. without any hesitation or fear... or tension...feeling relaxed.

POEM... a page and see the world beyond.,

Ohhh my mind...Yesterday's whole evening was so exiting... With little bit of investigation on the way I cud figure out the approximate venue of the program. As I reached @ location.. there was a huge line of the fans/(interested into) ppl for the program. I was really surprised and off course bit happy to know that there are more ppl other than me how are also enjoying Sandeep's POEMs.
And looking at the queue I concluded that its better to walk out and get back to the home ..... Still I was in little hope to get one chance to get into.. I remained in one of the last positions in the queue. Well before my chances to reach the ticket-box the organisers announced that the show is housefull. Actually as I was expecting this to happen , I wasn't much bothered about the announcement and as the organizers were about to close the ticket-window I approached them and heard that the show is already started and and auditorium had enjoyed 4-6 poems before even I could collect the tickets.
I requested to a well mannered good looking young lady at the ticket window in silent voice (which I usually do) "Mam, can I get the tickets for the standing position ?"
She looked at me and give a very pleasent smile.. as she seems to come to know ... how ppl are crazy about such incidents/programs but at the same time she must have came to know the kind of patience and manners I have been with her.. but to my 'unfortune' ......... she refused.
And while getting into the entrance of the auditorium she turned back and asked....."You will have to leave the show... if at all management commity members object your such presence"
I said "I am agreed" and suddenly I recall that Varun is also with me. In the hurry of getting the tickets rather the entry into the show, I forget about him. I looked at him...he was at the downstairs and looking at my fighting. Probably he is thinking....let me see how this 'Punter' is prevail in getting into the show???? .
Well then I grabbed him into the hall and we stood on the stairs and even I wasn't been able to see the performers, I started mumling with the song ... "Kase sartil saye..... Mazya vin dis tuze. "

And Sandeep keep on Singing/Commenting along with Sandeep Kulkarni and the complete show was WAW !!! and I was almost deaf..... as he sung 25-28 poems and all were roaring in my ears.
I can't say this one is best.. but can definately say that it's good enough... the poem was about the positive attitude about the life and off course The one "Atheist" was awesome.
I can't forget this evening and the Person who also made me to peer inside. I think thatz the fascination which I have about him.

Fellowship of POEMS. Poem - one page and see beyond world

I am heard it from my dear cousine brother Devendra and as well reading in paper about the live programme performed by Sandeep Khare and Sandeep Kulkarni. I could recall those day when I used to hear the songs for hours @ home written by this New POET ... Sandeep. and my brother camp (We all are Five brothers .. my cousines as well) used to annoy me because of this. Although I know how I was enjoying to listen the songs composed out of the poems ... I was not bothered about their comment.... as I believe ......it's upto evryones likes. I was enjoying these songs .. that's it I know. Now the strong attack by Brother camp is quite diluted today.....reason being Devendra is broken out from them and even they might be enjoying Sandeep's Poem. In fact I was not strongly recommending Sandeep's Poem ... but at that time itz what I came across.
Finally it was excitement time for me...... because chance is knocking doors for me to watch Sandeep performing live. The show details are given in the newspaper. I am not sure about the exact details about the reachability of the venue. I stared from office with my company collegue Varun who seems to be not much interested to attend prgm. May be I have forced him indirectly and he is now ready to come with me